my opinion is if u wanna kno what they say when u aint around be a spy about it lol so if you have a digital or some kind of sound recording device tha next time u go to ya girl house plant it in a good location and let it record(but do it when u kno he there fyi: this helped me uncover a mishap in a relationship of mine it didnt end to well cuz she got caught up). but if you dont want to do that then keep ya eyes open and a scope on da nigga lol